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If you want to change the world, start off by changing yourself first. This is the main idea of this article.
“Everybody wants to change the world but don’t nobody want to change themselves.” – Leo Tolstoy
How many people do you know who are complaining about how the society is a big mess and that the world sucks? At least a few, I would imagine…
Now, how many of those people actually have a better solution to offer? Not nearly a single one…That they would be exemplars of such virtuous and admirable personhoods that it would be a shame not to let them lead the show.
Of course, there are exceptions to this the higher you move up the hierarchy of leadership but the average person – your regular human being
- Who maybe has a college degree
- Who goes to their 9-5 job
- Who binge watches TV after work
- Who hasn’t read a book after high school
- Who doesn’t exercise
- Or self-enquire about themselves and the world
- Doesn’t know shit of what they’re talking about.
And that’s all they do – all talk, no show.
I’m not saying that they’re bad people. I’m saying that people, in general, have the arrogance, the audacity to demand certain things that they don’t really deserve.
- They want to become rich without working for it.
- They want to get the perfect abs without working out.
- They want to get a dream spouse without going out.
- They want to get the approval of others without being charming themselves.
- They want to be thought of as smart without reading books.
- They want to be successful without putting in the effort.
Where does it come from?
It’s from the societies own conditioning.
Children are taught ever since infancy that when everything turns bad and if you just sit there and wait while crying, someone – a white knight, if you will – will ride to the rescue, and everything will be fine again.
This spoon-in-your-mouth mentality…it’s going to backfire hard.
Do You Know Thyself?
Another reason why you should get yourself figured out first is that you lack self-awareness. I’m not talking directly to you but people in general. They have no idea who they really are – their authentic self.
Who they think they are – that’s the Locus Operandi they’re coming from. But what they fail to realize is that they’ve been conditioned by the world ever since they were born. Their parents, friends, school, culture, society, and books have all left a mark in their psyche, which they now falsely presume to be the real deal.
You are not the things that have happened to you – the place you grew up in, the people you spent time with or your social mirror.
You Need to Differentiate Between Authenticity and Ego
Look behind the experience and see the awareness – the higher self that can differentiate between authenticity and ego.
The ego is you following the norms of culture, wanting to get social validation and blinding yourself from all of your misbehaviors and the lies you know you’ve been telling yourself.
So, I believe most people have not figured this shit out. But they still act as if they know what ought to be done for the greater good.
This is Just the Foundation to Self-Awareness
But there’s just so many more pillars that support the entire structure. Another essential component is purpose – your life’s
Another essential component is purpose – your life’s project if you will.
What is it that you’re meant to do in this world? And what do you want to be remembered for? This is super relevant because, if you want to change the world, you better be capable of contributing to it in some way.
How to Find Your Purpose in a Few Simple Steps:
- Know thyself – we covered this
- What are your greatest talents? – Your unique gift that no one else can do better than you?
- What positive change would you like to bring to the world? – What’s the change you seek?
- How could you have the biggest effect on making that happen? – What do you need to do and where can you best apply your unique talent?
It’s really that simple, but it’s not easy in no way.
Don’t get caught up in the minutiae – aahhh…I’m not sure this is the right thing…What if I change my mind? Do I have to commit to this one thing for the rest of my life? How will I do this?
There’s the danger of overthinking
…and you can even go as far as to over think your overthinking, so don’t take it that far.
What I want you to think of is seeing yourself as an onion (Shrek likes onions), or a cabbage, if you don’t like onions.
The idea is to get to the center – the core of your ‘self’. You have to begin by uncovering all the layers. These layers are your conditioning and ego and your current life. As you discover more about yourself, as your life’s circumstances or plans change, you unravel another layer and learn something new. This might change the direction of your life’s project slightly but it doesn’t matter – you’re still moving in the right direction.
So, the idea is to not wait until you have all figured out – “I have this perfect plan, step-by-step. I know exactly where I’m gonna be in 10 years…” Those things are irrelevant.
What you need to do is just start and keep going. As long as you stay in motion, magical things will begin to happen.
Are You ‘ME+’ or ‘ME-‘?
Like I said, this is just the beginning of trying to change the world. Now that we have a glimpse of who we are, it’s time to think about what sort of improvement we need to make.
We all exhibit certain behaviors and habits, depending on what influences we’ve been exposed to. But you have to realize that what you do on a daily basis, what you think, what you consider cool or “normal” is also the result of your conditioning.
You do certain things, like certain foods, have certain opinions just because you’ve wired your brain to be like that.
And you’re going to have to be really honest here. Are your behaviors, your habits, and activities contributing to your life’s project? Or are they robbing from you the opportunity to reach your potential and become the greatest ME you can be?
There’s No Easier Way of Putting It
Of course, some things are more positive than others, but every one of your behaviors can be categorized as such. What you need to do is figure out, which is which and then keep going with the good stuff and stop doing the bad ones.
STOP DOING THE THINGS THAT MAKE YOU WEAK, less healthy, less intelligent and replace them with the ones that strengthen your body, augment your mindset, sharpen your mind and mold your will.
Which is why you would want to stick around this blog and subscribe to my YouTube channel.
I’ve also created a free online video course called Body Mind Empowerment Action Course. It lays the foundation to self-awareness and gives you the fundamentals to physical and mental excellence. Check it out.
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In celebration of reaching 3000 subscribers on YouTube, I decided to make a short Q&A video about some of the most frequently asked questions about me and what I do.
Q 1: “How did you go down this road?”
I’ve been an intrinsically motivated learner as long as I can remember, even as a child. I’ve always wanted to become better, stronger, smarter, more creative. And I’ve always wanted to change the world for the better. When I watched documentaries as a kid I was like WTF is going on – we’re screwing everything up. And I wanted to at least give people the right mindset for
When I watched documentaries as a kid I was like WTF is going on – we’re screwing everything up. And I wanted to at least give people the right mindset for growth not destruction.
When I was 20 I had already done a lot of personal development and I started writing. At 21 I started my blog and here we are.
Q 2: “How the hell did I manage to figure my shit out while still being so young?”
I’m still learning and I’ll never stop improving myself but I do credit myself for a lot of self-awareness and understanding what I need to do to get what I want.
I like to think that it comes from being able to learn from the mistakes of others and foreseeing the outcome of certain actions.
And that comes from reading a lot, surrounding yourself with people that are smarter than you, getting mentors and looking everything with an open mind, trying it out and then making the adjustments.
Q 3: “What motivated me to start?”
Well, I was just curious as a child. The world itself inspired me but I also was motivated by a lot of historical people like Alexander the Great, Hannibal, Socrates, Julius Caesar – I used to love history.
Some modern people were Anthony Robbins, Elliot Hulse, and also, Gary Vaynerchuk’s book Crush It made me start my blog, so it’s a great one.
Q 4: “What are my top book recommendations?”
Yep…I read a lot…
Q 5: “What is the easiest way to focus on one task and stop being distracted?”
There isn’t one single trick you can do to become focused again. You get distracted because you’ve conditioned your mind to be all over the place. It’s neuroplasticity.
It takes time to restructure your brain and habits.
What you can do to assist the process is control the things you can control like your environment. Turn off your phone, plug off the internet, close the door, throw away the key or whatever you have to. Just go into your Jedi-Focus —face–
With that being said, every time you feel like you’re about to lose it, acknowledge it to yourself – say ‘here I go again’ – and then direct your attention back on the task. Doing this over and over again will rip up the old neural pathways and rebuilds new and better ones.
Q 6: “How do you study more effectively and remember things better?”
The same applies here as well.
You have to study undistracted and do it intensely. Focus hard for a given period and then rest.
Now, before you can actually remember the things you learned a few days afterwards, you have to shuttle the data from short term memory to long term memory. To do that, you would want to actively recall the information. Like if you’re learning a language you have to actually be able to repeat the words you’re learning.
The biggest mistake people make is think that they have learned something when they’re too confident in their abilities or are simply lying to themselves. Like, Ye…I know the answer to that…ööööööööööööööööööö
Q 7: “What is your gym routine?”
I do mostly bodyweight stuff like calisthenics, push ups, pull ups, burpees, muscle ups, handstands, dips but I also lift some weights some times.
I try to do something every day, I don’t think that doing a few hundred push ups a day really taxes my nervous system that much and it actually promotes recovery.
Q 8: “Do you use kettlebells?”
Well, I’m glad you asked…I love kettlebells. I think they’re a great tool for developing cardiovascular fitness without having to do running. They burn fat and develop explosiveness as well.
Q 9: “How do you find your purpose in life?”
Here’s how you do it.
- You find out what are your greatest strengths?
- How can that gift make the world a better place?
- And then figure out in what way could you and your gift have the greatest impact on the rest of the world.
When we’re talking about purpose then we’re not talking about passion or happiness.
Your purpose is the thing you know you need to do – it’s what you’re meant to do.
Gandhi’s purpose was to free India from British occupation. Was he happy about it? No… but he knew he had to do it.
Alexander the Great knew he had to bring Western and Eastern civilization together and to conquer the world – he was miserable most of his life and died at 35.
But following your purpose will most definitely be fulfilling and blissful.
Q 10: “How to take massive action?”
By taking massive action.
No, but really, you have to just start…
Feel the fear and do it anyway.
Build the habits that give you the most results and stick to them consistently.
Q 11: “If you were religious, what religion would you be?”
What the hell are you talking about?
I’m already the Messiah…aaaaa
I wouldn’t ascribe myself to any religion but to life itself
Q 12: “Thoughts on free will?”
When you look at it scientifically, then we don’t have almost any free will.
I mean, if you can’t even focus on reading a book because of not being able to control your own mind then what the hell are we talking about?
Humans are so conditioned by their emotions, how their parents raised them, what country they were born in and what people they hang out with most. Most of them have no idea that they’re being programmed and mindcontrolled.
There is the potential for free will and to act differently. But to do that you first have to detach yourself from yourself, recognize this programming and then choose another way.
Q 13: “How do you build discipline?”
By starting with the small things because the small things are the big things.
You have a certain rule and you stick to it no matter what. You detach yourself again and do it despite the weather or how you feel.
Q 14: A lot of questions about my thoughts on coffee
It’s amazing and can be very good for your health. But most people over-do it and drink it randomly all day every day.
You have to be a strategic motherf#¤%a with your coffee and use it only as a performance enhancing stimulant.
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I’m only getting started with my growth and influence. I have a ton of amazing ideas and videos in the making that will give you massive value and life-enhancement. You better be ready for it because it’s gonna rock your world.
Want to know the habits for success and getting things done? There are many, but here are some meta-practices that ought to make you more effective and productive. They are The 7 Habits to Win the Day Every Day.
7 Habits to Win the Day Every Day
Habits follow neurological loops that influence our behavior and can hijack our rationality.
Everything you do on a consistent basis screams back at you who you are. Like Aristotle said: “We are what we repeatedly do, Excellence then is not an act, but a habit.” (Click to Tweet)
Personal growth and success are mostly a game of habits.
The second major component – the flip side of the coin of habits are routines. Your daily rituals are habitual and they make up your entire day.
Here are 7 very simple but massively beneficial habits you should pick up to make sure you win the day every day.
1. Cold Showers
Want to charge your system in the morning with energy that would last the entire day? Don’t grab for the coffee right after opening your eyes but go take a cold shower instead.
This is super-good for the lymph and nervous system. You’re giving your body a shock of neurotransmitters and adrenaline that works a lot better than any other wakefulness promoting agent.
It also teaches you how to handle stress and discomfort better. If you’re capable of staring at the shower, stay calm under cold water and not giving in to fear, then you’ll be able to overcome almost any obstacle you might come across. I take a cold shower every morning and it really gets me going.
But just taking a shower won’t work, especially if it’s glacial. The cold water will make you tense up, which will trigger the fight or flight response.
Freezing up completely will still cause stress to the body and sends your subconscious mind the wrong signals. You want to be able to stay in control as much as possible and a great way to do it is through breathing.
Breathing directly influences our nervous system and can change the state of our physiology. Not only for managing stress but digestion, alertness, and focus.
People don’t pay any attention to their breathing patterns and that’s why everyone is so stressed out, sick and angry. Shallow breathing through the mouth basically says that “I’m in danger! Get me the hell out of here!” Your breaths should be soft and relaxed, through the nose and deep into the belly.
Doing breathing exercises will increase your mindfulness – the ability to be more present and attuned with whatever you’re doing.
Another great technique for this is meditation.
You’re conditioning your mind to experience sensory experiences more deeply and learning to differentiate between things you need to do and the ones you don’t.
Meditation will make you more proactive. Instead of reacting to random events and other people, you create an empty space between the stimulus and your response, during which you can choose how you’re going to respond.
Continuing on with the next step beyond mindfulness, which is meta-awareness. It’s the ability to see oneself from an external perspective and to evaluate one’s own behavior as objectively as possible.
Most of the time, we do certain things without even noticing them. We follow our habits just because they’ve become habitual, without ever questioning or asking why we do what we do.
If you’re feeling stuck in life right now, then you’re doing something that isn’t giving you the results you’re after. To change your results, you have to change your behavior.
Journaling is an amazing meta-awareness developing exercise because you’re forced to actually write down what you’re doing and uncover your blind spots. When you read it to yourself, you will notice that …huh…this seems to be a re-emerging pattern and will then know what you have to do.
5. Fear Conditioning
But simply knowing something isn’t enough – you have to apply the knowledge.
What is the biggest thing that stops people from taking action? – It’s FEAR. Fear will never go away – especially every time you’re about to take a cold shower. You just get better at dealing with it.
So, the way you react to fear is habitual and can be trained. Cold showers are already a great tool for this but you should also do something that scares you every day. Whatever it may be – doing public speaking, talking to strangers, making difficult decisions in your business – just get out of your comfort zone because that’s where the growth happens.
And of course, what day would be victorious without a healthy dose of exercise. Physical movement is not only crucial for health and longevity but it’s also an essential contributor to your brain’s performance and happiness.
But simply hitting the gym or going for a run in the evening is still bad if you continue to sit in a single position most of the day. Sitting is the new smoking because it’s as bad for your health and joints.
That’s why it’s important to stay in motion as much as possible throughout your schedule. Stand wherever you can, have movement breaks, take the stairs, for crying out loud, and walk everywhere you go.
Of course, you would still want to workout harder than that and do resistance training with both aerobic and anaerobic exercise.
Lastly, at the end of the day, you have to make time for connection. Humans are social creatures and it’s been found that emotional pain causes the same physiological response in the body. This can be another major source of stress and anxiety.
The habits listed so far are all meant to increase your personal effectiveness and performance, but this one is supposed to make others great as well. Paradoxically, as you help and connect with others, you’re making yourself that much greater thanks to the happiness and good feeling.
Spend time with family, network with new partners, catch up with friends, play with the kids and take some time to relax.
Be grateful for having done all these habits and keep following them consistently. If you do, I guarantee you’ll see massive improvements in your life and everything you do.
Stay Disciplined, Stay Consistent
The key to success is showing up every day, following the best practices that give you the most results for the least amount of effort and constantly trying to improve yourself.
Success in the context of Body Mind Empowerment is being optimally healthy, strong both physically and mentally, having a growth-augmented mindset and leading by example. It’s life-enhancement.
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This article talks about the health benefits of napping and how to have a powernap. Plus, when to do it. Join me in my pursuit of hitting the snooze during the day.
The Nap You’ve Missed
How are you? Feeling drowsy? Energized? Or barely able to hold your eyes open? That would depend on many things, such as what time it is? How long have you been awake and how was your sleep last night?
What about closing those eyes for just a moment and…zzZZZzzz…
You’re back in kindergarten. The teacher says it’s nap time. “You need to rest and sleep if you want to keep playing!” I don’t know about you but back then I used to hate that. It was the most boring part of the day because you didn’t get to do awesome stuff. Most of the time, I just laid in my bed and pretended to be asleep.
But now I must say that having a short snooze is amazing and research also shows that there are a lot of health benefits to napping.
Napping Health Benefits
- Reduces Stress – Not getting enough sleep promotes cortisol production and taxes the adrenal glands. Excess leads to fat gain, weakened immune system and muscle loss. In a study done on Greeks, people who had a 30-minute nap at least 3 times a week, had 37% less chance of dying from heart conditions.
- Increases Alertness – Naps can prevent fatigue, restore concentration, make you alert and enhance performance. A NASA study found that a 40 minute nap increases alertness by 100%.
- Improves Learning and Working Memory – This is crucial for learning any skill, remembering information or tackling complex tasks.
- Enhances Relaxation and Mood – Napping has great restorative effects on the body and brain. You get to deal with all the tension built up during the day and can hit a quick reset button for your mind.
- Promotes Creativity and Problem Solving – The amount of cognitive work you can do depends on how much energy your brain has access to. Taking short naps in between studying or some other higher executive task is a great way to get a small boost of mental power. Napping has been very popular amongst many great people and geniuses, like Napoleon Bonaparte, Thomas Edison, Salvador Dali and Leonardo da Vinci.
Negative Effects of Napping
But it isn’t all sunshine and rainbows at Dreamland. Napping can also mess up your day and night. You may get:
- Sleep Inertia – After waking up from a nap, you feel groggy and exhausted.
- Insomnia – You may get nighttime sleep problems.
- Laziness – If you sleep too much or not enough during your nap, you may hit a slump for the rest of the day.
When Should I Nap?
Napping isn’t for everyone and you shouldn’t have one all the time. So, when should you have your nap?
You might think that it’s a good idea to hit the sack whenever you get the slightest sign of sleepiness or fatigue but it’s not. If that were the case, we’d have to put sleeping pods all over the place. Which is actually not a bad idea…
Sleeping at random times for indefinite time lengths can mess up your circadian rhythm and may keep you up at night. That’s why you’d want to be strategic with your naps and have them with a purpose in mind.
The best time for a nap is mid afternoon around 12 to 2 PM. Before hitting the sack, you should’ve been awake for about 5-7 hours. This way your body has a reason to benefit from sleeping. It all depends on what your sleep schedule is like but napping after 4 PM may keep you up at night.
Napping is also great when you’re about to experience sleep loss because of a work shift or going out with friends.
How Long Should My Naps Be?
During sleep, your brain goes through several stages of sleep.
- Non-Rapid Eye Movement (NREM) has 3 of them and in here your body is still quite awake. This is the weird dream-like state that recharges your creativity and gives a short energy boost. NREM sleep lasts anywhere from 5 to 45 minutes.
- Rapid Eye Movement (REM) sleep is where the real magic happens. Your brain shuttles short term memory to long term storage, muscles are repaired and other metabolic processes occur. This is the real deep sleep. One REM cycle takes up to 70-90 minutes for completion.
To get the most out of your naps, you’d want to keep them relatively short. If you wake up in the middle of a sleep cycle, you’ll feel more tired than before. That’s why you should aim for either a 10-30 minute powernap or a 90 minute post-lunch snooze.
How to Have a Power Nap
I myself have practiced polyphasic sleeping with several naps throughout the day and I can doze off almost anywhere at any time if I want to. All you need is 20 minutes of your time, a good place to crawl up and something to lay your head upon.
Here are a few good items for having a powernap: a sleeping mask, a thin blanket, a pillow and some headphones. If you use a specific soundtrack, you can time the length of your naps perfectly. Just don’t sleep in and overextend them. You can even do it on the floor.
The most important thing is to fall asleep ASAP. You don’t want to waste time on simply laying there, trying to fall asleep and thinking about why you’re not falling asleep.
Just put on your headphones, crawl into a cozy position, relax your mind and loosen up the body.
Don’t feel guilty about it either. It shouldn’t be thought of as procrastination because you’re recharging your batteries for going harder afterward.
Have a Nap and Become Empowered
Napping in the afternoon is amazing for repairing from the morning and preparing yourself to stay high performance until the evening. I love it.